tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post4918883024245866350..comments2023-10-20T05:28:25.260-06:00Comments on Simply Sara: LossSimply Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03904562519906792897noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-72832537365449584302011-03-04T20:19:59.726-07:002011-03-04T20:19:59.726-07:00Sara,First off, thank you for your comment on my b...Sara,<br>First off, thank you for your comment on my blog about my pet picture! Very sweet and I appreciate it so much.<br>Second, this flower pic above is gorgeous...and then I started reading your post...so.. <br>Third, beautifully written and I ache with you. I also have a little one up in heaven. It was one of the hardest times in my life so I can't imagine losing three, let alone your mother at the age of 10. Thank you for sharing this and your faith. God is good. And what a comfort to know that we'll see them all some day in heaven.<br>I'm so glad He brought me to your blog..I'm an official follower now!<br>StaceyStaceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13691383741205469117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-58269426447224405232010-07-08T13:39:50.030-06:002010-07-08T13:39:50.030-06:00Thank you so much for sharing this. I came across ...Thank you so much for sharing this. I came across your blog through a friend's and decided to keep scrolling down...when I came to this. I also suffered a loss in April at 10 weeks. Hardest thing I've ever gone through I think. It is nice to know there are others that feel the same way. I recently just put my emotions down on my blog (i usually don't express my innermost thoughts) and it was like sweet relief--to not have to suffer in silence. To just throw it out on the table. Anyways, thanks so much for sharing! PS I love the flower pic!Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09093788147775626648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-36767412560211431582010-07-06T07:01:20.600-06:002010-07-06T07:01:20.600-06:00you share your heart beautifully. i am proud of y...you share your heart beautifully. i am proud of you for writing something that is so close to your heart and showing your vulnerability.<br /><br />my heart is sad for your losses. i will be lifting you up my friend.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18310435646127999845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-44720341961919111002010-07-05T19:21:44.938-06:002010-07-05T19:21:44.938-06:00Sara,
First off, thank you for your comment on my ...Sara,<br />First off, thank you for your comment on my blog about my pet picture! Very sweet and I appreciate it so much.<br />Second, this flower pic above is gorgeous...and then I started reading your post...so.. <br />Third, beautifully written and I ache with you. I also have a little one up in heaven. It was one of the hardest times in my life so I can't imagine losing three, let alone your mother at the age of 10. Thank you for sharing this and your faith. God is good. And what a comfort to know that we'll see them all some day in heaven.<br />I'm so glad He brought me to your blog..I'm an official follower now!<br />Staceystaceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691383741205469117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-72336555051385073042010-06-23T15:37:09.081-06:002010-06-23T15:37:09.081-06:00you humble me with your ability to write this with...you humble me with your ability to write this with such eloquence and understanding.<br />I didn't lose any babies... I just ache for those who have, for you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-28093732595833233062010-06-22T17:19:58.354-06:002010-06-22T17:19:58.354-06:00Sara, You're so Awesome! I too am grateful to...Sara, You're so Awesome! I too am grateful to you for writing down your feelings. I have three boys 10,8,5. All three were healthy pregnancies and I am blessed. We always wanted a girl, so we tried. Three miscarriages later, I feel I am done. The last miscarriage was at 17 weeks and it was confirmed that it was a little girl. As much as I feel I was strong and that my Heavenly Father is watching out for me, it's still hard. It was only a few months ago and my 5 year old still asks when we will get our babies back. What am I suppose to say? I told him that we will get them back when we go to heaven. That he can help me raise them. He seemed fine with that, but my heart hurts when I see my boys long for a little sister. People say I was so strong and that they wouldn't have done as well, but I didn't feel like unloading on anyone.<br />Thank you for being so inspiring and for letting me know that there are others out there that feel the same way I do. You are a blessing!<br /><br />Jacki<br />jacki@roperfam.comgnomeswife77https://www.blogger.com/profile/11647477260163037754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-51805057169887413732010-06-22T13:14:16.486-06:002010-06-22T13:14:16.486-06:00it is hard to express my feelings and really hard ...it is hard to express my feelings and really hard for me to write about them. thank you for writing down what so many of us feel. after having 4 children and then taking what we thought were permanent measures, i became pregnant at 39 years old. adding to that surprise was finding out that i carrying twins, sweet little identical girls. i had carried the first 4 children without any problems at all, but this time i had several problems including a full month of bed rest. when i was 30-31 weeks along we found that 1 of the twins had passed away leaving us with no options but to deliver the other twin. the emotions were so varied. deep grief followed by elation that the other twin though small and fragile was doing so well. i was able to hold my dear little Annie for bit. now little emily is growing up so fast and we can't image what life would be without her. through out all of this it has been reaffirmed to me the Lord knows the plan and where we fit in it. even after 10 years there are times that i grieve the loss of annie generally when emily is hitting some milestone of life. knowing that our family will be together again, all of us, makes even the hardest days easier. without that knowledge the loss of annie would have be unbearable. time lessens the pain--i promise it does. <br /><br />it does not matter how far along you are, from the moment you know you are expecting, the love of that child grows and grows. 3 weeks, 3 months, 7 months or full term, it is the same, the loss of a child and our heart aches to be their mother here and now.<br /><br />Faith in the Lord includes have faith in His timing. <br /><br />thank you for inspiring me to write my feelings down, even if this is just a small part of all i feel. it was time.<br /><br />Shirley<br />damamabunny@cableone.netAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-41121448761351403572010-06-22T10:13:56.960-06:002010-06-22T10:13:56.960-06:00Oh Sara, I too am a mother of a baby in heaven. I...Oh Sara, I too am a mother of a baby in heaven. It's been 10 years. My miscarriage happened early in my pregnancy. I also am a writer and God has used writing to help carry me through many days and difficult times. It is something I hadn't taken time for through parts of my life, but through my dad's illness and death three years ago, I began again. My dad was a minister and my spiritual mentor and I miss him every day. Isn't it amazing that we so often feel we are an island - that no one has experienced what we have? Yet they have - even more than we will ever know. <br />Your story touched my heart in a way that nothing else has since the loss of my baby. I thank you for sharing it. You portrayed in your writing exactly what's in my heart. Tears fell silently as I read it. The sharing of what's on your heart helps those of us that have experienced miscarriage and it helps those who haven't to better understand those of us who have. <br />When I finish my comment here I plant to hop over to my blog and post a link to your story. Parts of my own story (I tried to here, but it ended up being too long) will be my entry for today. Like you, I haven't shared in writing my experience, but you have inspired me to do so. <br />God Bless and your family!!!Tammy McCainhttp://llbbg.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-88567506732221446222010-06-20T08:56:32.619-06:002010-06-20T08:56:32.619-06:00Thank you for opening up and sharing the hard thin...Thank you for opening up and sharing the hard things in life with us Sara. Loss is such a difficult thing... I don't think we were meant for it... I have never dealt with it well, but am beginning to realize that is why there is heaven. This earth is just a passing place, heaven is the real thing :) <br /><br />May God comfort you and give you a peace and joy and comfort that you never thought was possible!Charissa Steynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13121020662287989473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-9786312124757028942010-06-19T18:18:27.135-06:002010-06-19T18:18:27.135-06:00I have come back time and time again since first r...I have come back time and time again since first reading this post to say something. But that is the thing about suffering...most times there just are no right answers. In fact very rarely are there answers at all. I look forward to the day when we can sit in the presence of the One who does know. Until then, may a peace that surpasses our understanding be yoursPrairie Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05383116242097899456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-47218266002875752582010-06-18T19:20:38.014-06:002010-06-18T19:20:38.014-06:00I'm so sorry to hear such sad news.
I too have...I'm so sorry to hear such sad news.<br />I too have felt what it feels like to loose a child early on. And no matter how far along you are, it hurts. <br />I agree with Heather, that grief comes and goes. And the way I deal with it, is just by talking to God about my feelings, whether it be sadness, anger, confusion, in the end I know He knows best, and I know your heart is in the same place! <br />I'll keep you in my prayers!Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06560837060047841265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-37265247993905641212010-06-18T12:10:21.159-06:002010-06-18T12:10:21.159-06:00I am so sorry for your losses. I know what you are...I am so sorry for your losses. I know what you are going through. Sometimes it bothers me when people make assumptions that my husband and I are selfish because we "only" have one. Such decisions aren't up to us, and very few people make their losses public. Sometimes I correct people, but most of the time I'm too stricken to say anything. I find that my grief comes and goes, and that I typically grieve after a bit of time has passed. In the past, I have made donations to children's charities in memory of. That way, some good came out of a too-brief life.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00172636187611286057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-62352256185586408342010-06-18T10:18:50.389-06:002010-06-18T10:18:50.389-06:00you have 6 children {smile}. won't it be wonde...you have 6 children {smile}. won't it be wonderful when we get home and all 6 of your childrens arms are wrapped around you and each other. oh that will be GLORIOUS!<br /><br />when all the questions disappear, and we live in Knowing. when his glory is made known. <br />when i miss my son, i look forward to that day. <br /><br />i love you friend. <br /><br />you wrote this beautifully.<br /><br />and i deal with loss in much of the same way. i write it out again, and again. i use to journal before blogging (i have 26 filled journals). sometimes i post them, sometimes i don't. <br /><br />i have loss that i am writing/working out now. before posting it i seek grace. grace in my words, thoughts, posting... this has helped me in the healing process.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01240575765252692365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5449551179146558035.post-47219838956554660142010-06-18T06:57:16.922-06:002010-06-18T06:57:16.922-06:00You know... I just read your about page yesterday....You know... I just read your about page yesterday... and saw that very statement about you having three babies in heaven. I said a prayer for you yesterday because although I haven't been there myself, I have watched one of my friends loose two babies late term. No matter what their age, they are still your children and that's a painful loss. But, as you've written, God is in control. It's a hard thing to say and harder to live by, but you are so very right. <br /><br />I have no good "advice" about dealing with loss -- except that I will lift you up in prayer, my friend.SnoWhitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939257456903076156noreply@blogger.com