Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Keepin' the love lovin'

One day while walking through the grocery store a song came on that I had never heard before. It actually stopped me in my tracks and I let the words sink into my heart. I am a words person. Words are how I express, how I process, how I give and receive love. It always fascinates me when I am reminded that not everyone hears a song the same way I do. Chris listens to the music- the melody, the instruments, the flow of the song.... I listen to the lyrics.

So, I heard this song and immediately wanted to share it with Chris, so I texted him the YouTube video.
(the video is all kinds of crazy.....but again, listen to the lyrics, they are awesome!!)

I should be over all the butterflies
But I'm into you (I'm in to you)
And baby even on our worst nights
I'm into you (I'm into you)
Let em wonder how we got this far
Cause I don't really need to wonder at all
Yeah after all this time
I'm still into you
(Still Into You by Paramore)

Shortly after Chris texted me this song:

And so started a new language for us.
A "youtube love song" language.

Throughout the week (sometimes several times a day) Chris and I will text each other "love song" videos. Sometimes they are oldies, sometimes new ones. My favorites are the ones from the 60s and 70s. Sometimes they are hilarious and have me laughing out loud, and sometimes they make me smile at how sweet they are. No matter the type of song when I get a message like this my heart skips a beat.

I try to guess what he has picked for me to listen to but I am ALWAYS surprised. That's the best part I think. It's impossible to guess which one he has chosen. And picking them is equally as fun. Sometimes I am sitting in the school parking lot waiting for the kids and I'm giggling as I imagine what his response is going to be to the one I picked for him.

Our new language is a reminder in the middle of my busy day that he is thinking of me.
It's a reminder in the middle of his busy day that I am thinking of him.

One day a couple of months ago we got into a big argument over something that I'm sure was epic at the time, but now that I'm trying to recall the details I honestly can't even remember. But that day it was an all-out FIGHT. What I do remember is that I was fuming. A.N.G.R.Y. When I get mad I have a hard time sleeping, so I was also exhausted. And frustrated. And I knew he was too.  Later the next day my cell phone chirped with a link to this video.....


How could I stay angry at him after that? He used our secret love language and it was just another reminder to me that we are in this together. For the long haul.

I've considered for a few months now whether or not I should share this on here, but Chris is the one who asked why I hadn't yet.... I guess I wanted it to be just our thing but then I realized that maybe it would be an encouragement to you and your marriage. An idea to add a little extra lovin' in the mix of the everyday shuffle :)

This is what marriage is. It's trying to out serve the other. It's laughing together. Surprising one another. It's saying sorry. And forgiving. And it's secret love messages in the middle of the day.

Some things just,
Some things just make sense
And one of those is you and I
Some things just,
Some things just make sense
And even after all this time
I'm into You
Baby not a day goes by that
I'm not into you
(Still Into You by Paramore)

What do you in your marriage to keep your love lovin'?


  1. I love that you do this! That first song is so catchy and cute! And the sorry one is cracking me up! Patrick and I do this occasionally do this as well, and it's always really fun! :) One thing we have been doing for years is giving each other new middle names on card envelopes. Like Patrick "You're the One that I Want" Z. I need to put those all together in a scrapbook! :)

  2. Love it. It's so fun to find new ways to keep the butterflies there after all these years! This is a great idea. :)

  3. So cute. So fun! Love this idea. I need to do more of this!
    And whoa...i need to visit your blog more often!

  4. and also, i didn't realize you were such a words person, even though i do vaguely recall a conversation with you about love languages. i feel bad that i didn't remember that about you.


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